Saturday, March 29, 2014

Link to: Parents Struggle with Boundaries

Oh My, this is SO pertinent.  -Cathy
3 Common Reasons Parents Struggle with Boundaries

The Loaded Plate

On Thursday March 20th, the Mindful Parenting group gathered for the second time since inception.  This time the topic was around family and meal times.

We started off asking ourselves what's important to each of us at meal time.
Then, we thought about our own unique struggles at meal time.
We completed the topic by both challenging our ideals, and discussing creative ideas.

The dinner meal seemed to come to mind most often in the discussion.  Family time, calming ritual, helping out, share time, food diversity and nutrition, were consistent important topics among the group.  So much more than just food in the belly!

We found that many of our meal time struggles were not all that unique: rushing, crying, can't sit still (adults or children), messes, not eating, waste, and not calm at all.  There is some logic to be applied in that trying the same things over and over and expecting different results, is crazy!

Different ideas that came up to try:

  • Prayer jar (or gratuitous statements) as a ritual to bring the family to the table.
  • Decide your family approach for eating variety.  One option was to offer a variety of food, but not apply pressure beyond encouragement to try the items.  One option was to require the child to taste one bite of each different item, but not apply pressure to eat all of the plate.  Another, to offer only the dinner plate food from dinner time through the evening, but no pressure to sit and eat.  And possibly, a solution around food tasting/eating that varied depending on the meal, or trying different approaches to see what works with individual children.
  • "Pancake Pancake" ...   
  • Try, try again, patience, perseverance.  
  • Recognize eating choices and behaviors as phases  
  • Model the behavior you wish to teach.  (doh!)

The discussion was fruitful and constructive.  It was not exhaustive, but it jumped rapidly to the topics that seemed most relevant to those who were attending.

A blog post on a similar topic was written recently by Janet Lansbury

The next gathering will perhaps take the venue of a backyard grill.  However, the third week of April is around Easter, where many of us will be unavailable.  The date of the next gathering is TBD.

Wednesday, March 19, 2014

Brigid Schulte author of Overwhelmed

NPR interview with Brigid Schulte, author of Overwhelmed Work, Love, and Play When No One Has the Time shares research and personal experience about being overwhelmed in the integrated world of employee, parent, spouse, self and internal assumptions.  My husband and I both enjoyed listening to this segment related to mindful parenting.

Tuesday, March 4, 2014

Topics on My Mind

We started last month with some introductions, which will continue as time lapses, and a topic on self-compassion.  Let's make a road map of ideas for future discussions, or electronic threads.  To get the list started, here are some ideas I came up with or have heard from you about:

  • The Loaded Dinner Plate - The toil of consumption, behavior, and expectations (March 20th)
  • Morning Routines - And teaching our bodies to get going.
  • Family Mission - (workshop?) Starting to define our individually unique missions as families, and setting the path through awareness.
  • Child Wholeness - Approaching others from a place where they are whole, worthy, capable, and autonomous.
  • The art of Seeking to Understand first
  • Anger Management - There, I said it.  Tactical tool box for teaching and self-management.
  • Family Traditions - (workshop) What is a tradition and what's the role.
  • Kiddie Yoga - and other calming tools.
  • Spirituality in our Lives - value, purpose and approaches
  • Controller vs Consultant - parent mindset
  • Family Nutritional values "beets" Brussel sprouts
  • Philanthropy
  • Self-Image
Post in the Comments below some additional ideas that come to your mind, or pick a few from above that catch your attention!